False Evidence Appearing Real
Fear: an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.
UGH. I have had some interesting conversations this morning that have made me have to really reflect upon my life. Same topic of conversation, but one occurring with my best friend, Tasha. Tasha is of the mindset that I am lying to myself about certain things that I say I want/don’t want in life. She’s been around for quite some time, so I value her opinion and I will always take it under consideration. However, I think that what she calls a lie, I call self-preservation.
So how does fear play into all of this? Well when you weed out all the unnecessary language in the definition of fear and make it succinct, you end up with: an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that something is likely to cause pain. How many can agree that often we make present decisions based off past experiences; and when those past experiences have associations with pain, how likely is it that we form a defense mechanism to avoid such experiences? The fear of a thing will place a stronghold on our lives and cripple our growth, our peace, and our happiness if we do not learn to see it for what it truly is: False Evidence Appearing Real.
Sigh. (Literally). I am not sure the best way to articulate my thoughts right now. I know what I want to say, but I am not sure how to say it.
Unfortunate things happen in our lives, and we attach a stigma to those situations. So now going forward, when life brings about a similar situation, we are overly cautious, we are understandably hesitant, and we are consumed with doubt. We don’t want a repeat of the pain or bad feelings associated with that situation. So, what do we do? Well, I can’t speak for you, but after the conversations that I had this morning, I realize that I make excuses. I make excuses and I call them reasoning’s. Valid and understandable? Yes, they are. But, if I take away the fear of the thing, would my position be the same?
For this particular topic of conversation that I had on today—that I will not share in this blog, maybe at a later time—I do not know what my answer is. My experiences in life are my experiences in life and since I haven’t had a positive experience to counter it with, it makes it even harder for me to discern. Tasha, you are right. In this exact moment, as I typed the last sentence, I reflected upon it, and I said to myself, “you are lying.” If we can’t be honest with ourselves, then who can we be honest with?
Fear is powerful. Fear is intimidating. Fear is debilitating. Fear is what we allow it to be in our lives. Was I not just saying a couple of days ago that we must live without regret and be fearless in this blog? Another sigh. The only way to overcome our fears is to face them, that is a scary thought. I realize that I have many a stronghold on my life. Yet, I am not sure I am ready to face them—I don’t think I am strong enough to face them.
Right now, it appears my blogs run parallel to one another. I am learning so much about myself along this journey. My thoughts are not independent, they often correlate to one another and impact and influence others. I think I must go back to the drawing board of my life and ask myself some serious questions. Perfect world scenario, fear being barred, what would my life look like? Maybe that is my next blog.
Do you find fear is holding you back from something in your life? What does that look like? Are you willing to confront it head on? Can you rel8?
For anyone who would like more information about facing your fears, here are some articles:
With Love & Respect,